Wedded = WORK!

Yea, that's a huge lesson that I learned this weekend. I'm kind of late on getting that memo, I know.  But who would have thought it was so difficult just to understand ONE person?!

Here are the 6 biggest lessons I've learned since being married for (almost) 6 months:

1. Communicate! from the seemingly obvious things to the obscure, it's so important to discuss any changes that are being made that could affect your spouse.
2. Don't assume anything! If you aren't sure about something, ask nicely for him/her to explain.
3. If you can't agree on how to squeeze the toothpaste, just get your own tube.
4. Examine yourself before pointing out the faults of your spouse (this is my biggest work in progress!)
5. Keep doing good, even if it feels like it's killing you.  In the end you will be stronger for it.
6. Love, true love, really does overcome everything else.

We had a mini-marriage seminar at our house this weekend, which is probably why I am giving all this marital advice, ha! We began watching the "5 Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman on Sunday Night and it was interesting to figure out how we both want love shown to us.

and we also got in 2 amazing books by Dr. Ed Wheat that were given to us by a missionary friend and we are completely excited to read them (especially the 2nd, haha!):
 

Staying in Love for a Lifetime. It is filled with amazing stories of couples who were able to overcome the odds together :)

It's all about Intimacy in Marriage and also covers medical information

I totally recommend these resources to all my married friends! Hope you all have a terrific Tuesday!!

 love always,

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30 Day Challenge - Encouraging Your Husband!

Happy Wednesday Everyone!


As every newlywed soon finds out, everything you thought marriage would be like couldn't be farther from how it actually is! Since Danny and I have been married one of the hardest things we (okay, mostly me) battle with is trying to find a balance between dealing with the pressures of life and being a loving, encouraging spouse.

I found this great 30-day Challenge from Revive Our Hearts that I will be doing starting TODAY on how to be a more encouraging wife. I know it takes 21 days to make (or break) a habit so I'm hoping that through this I will make the habit to be more loving and not just give up after the next 30 days!  If you want to join me on this month-long journey let me know by posting a comment :) So here is Day 1:

"The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does
him good and not evil all the days of her life." Prov. 31:11-12
Here are the rules for the 30-Day Encouragement Challenge:
* You can't say anything negative about your husband ...to your husband...or to anyone else, about your husband.
* Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband...to your husband...and to someone else, about your husband!
To help you get started, have you ever thanked your husband for "choosing you" above all other women? He found you attractive as a person, and appreciated you. Though many circumstances in your marriage may have changed, let your husband know that you are glad God led you together, and that you want to be a blessing to him for the rest of your marriage. Let him know that he can trust you to be in his corner. One of the best opportunities to express your gratitude is first thing in the morning. How do you greet your husband each morning? Is he confident in your love? Give him a "wake up call" that he'll never forget-a big "I love you" and an "I'm so glad I'm your wife!"

I'll let you know my progress and look forward to hearing how everyone else does!

love always,

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My first blog...EVER!

     After going back and forth in my mind for what seems like the millionth time, I have finally decided to write my first blog ever on this last day of March.  It is the perfect weather to meditate on my thoughts because there is such a torrential downpour of rain outside! I definitely love living in Florida for the blue skies and sunshine but rainy days every once in a while are not so bad either....they give me a chance, for once, to feel like I'm not missing out on anything while I am at work.

Danny and I are still getting used to the ups and downs of being newly married but overall are having a great time getting to know each other.  Thankfully we have a lot of the same likes/dislikes which makes everything that much easier.  Right now our biggest focus is on getting all the projects done around our house.  The list seems like it will never end! But in the next post I will show some pics of the awesome home decor stuff I got!

Well I hope everyone has a great Thursday and I look forward to the future of my blog!

Love always,

Asha

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