Wedded = WORK!

Yea, that's a huge lesson that I learned this weekend. I'm kind of late on getting that memo, I know.  But who would have thought it was so difficult just to understand ONE person?!

Here are the 6 biggest lessons I've learned since being married for (almost) 6 months:

1. Communicate! from the seemingly obvious things to the obscure, it's so important to discuss any changes that are being made that could affect your spouse.
2. Don't assume anything! If you aren't sure about something, ask nicely for him/her to explain.
3. If you can't agree on how to squeeze the toothpaste, just get your own tube.
4. Examine yourself before pointing out the faults of your spouse (this is my biggest work in progress!)
5. Keep doing good, even if it feels like it's killing you.  In the end you will be stronger for it.
6. Love, true love, really does overcome everything else.

We had a mini-marriage seminar at our house this weekend, which is probably why I am giving all this marital advice, ha! We began watching the "5 Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman on Sunday Night and it was interesting to figure out how we both want love shown to us.

and we also got in 2 amazing books by Dr. Ed Wheat that were given to us by a missionary friend and we are completely excited to read them (especially the 2nd, haha!):
 

Staying in Love for a Lifetime. It is filled with amazing stories of couples who were able to overcome the odds together :)

It's all about Intimacy in Marriage and also covers medical information

I totally recommend these resources to all my married friends! Hope you all have a terrific Tuesday!!

 love always,

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Encouraging Your Husband - Day 3

Happy Friday!!


I couldn't be more thankful that Friday has arrived than I am today!  It seems like ever since I took on this Encouragement Challenge from Revive Our Hearts I have been put to the test in my marriage more than ever! Even the smallest situations that we would never concern ourselves about have been turning into mountains!  So if you have decided to join me on this 30-day challenge to become a more loving and supportive wife be warned - this is not for the weak! You will want to give up every single day along the way, but if you somehow manage to just get through it I know it will make a life-changing difference! So here we go again...
 
Day 3:
 "...love suffers long, and is kind..." 1 Cor. 13:4
"And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus." Phil. 4:19
Love indeed suffers long and is kind. As you consider your Encouragement Challenge, determine today that you will not say anything negative to or about your husband. Speak kindly to him with words of genuine encouragement. If your husband is considerate of your needs, let him know that you have noticed. Thank
him for his kindness and consideration. Thank the Lord that your husband knows how to be both tough and tender. Sometimes it's difficult for a man to be gentle, kind or tender - especially if he hasn't had role models in these areas. If he's not a considerate person, appeal to him for help without complaining. Let him know that it's hard for you to handle some things alone. Then, when he moves in to help, don't insist that he do it your way. Be glad that he is responding, and express your gratitude. Ultimately, you can't expect your husband to make you feel more secure, loved, etc.
Remember that only God can meet the deepest needs of your heart.

 I wish you all the best in this challenge and am keeping your marriages in my prayers, hope you'll do the same for me :)

P.S. - Epcot pics coming soon (for real this time)! We had such a great time there and pictures are so wonderful because every time you look at them, it brings you right back into that moment when they were taken! Hope you all have wonderful weekends!!!

love always,

 

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